I want to talk about puppy love.
Let me tell you about my little dog, Jax.
He is so good at being in a relationship.
He is not afraid to ask for exactly what he wants. And he does it so nicely. If he wants to play, he will bring me a toy. And if he wants love or cuddles, he will paw me. Of course, I can’t always accommodate him. But he never gets upset with me.
And the same is true in reverse. Sometimes I want to be with Jax and he wants nothing to do with me. I never take it personally. And there are times when he might have a little accident on the carpet or I step on his tail by mistake but we never hold a grudge against each other. We are both always good with each other. This little boy is all about giving and receiving love.
I think you all know where I am going with this.
Look, I understand that dogs are not out in world. It can be hard out there. Relationships can be hard sometimes. So this seems like a very simplistic view of how to be in a relationship.
But what if we tried some of this stuff – just to see what would happen?
What if …… we asked for we wanted, nicely?
What if …… they said no and we never took it personally?
What if …… we allowed for people to ask us for they want? And if we have to to say no, to do it in such a way that we never made them feel bad for having asked?
What if …… we gave love just because we want too with no grand expectations of anything in return?
Just something for you to think about.
© 2016 Alice Badler