When you fly on an airplane, before take off, the flight attendant goes over what to do in case of an emergency. One of the things they tell you is that if the cabin loses oxygen, a mask will fall in front of you. In all circumstances you are to put your oxygen mask on first, before putting one on anyone else; this includes young children and the elderly. The reason for this is because if you cannot breathe, you are useless to others.
It is no different in everyday life.
If you are tired, cranky, depressed, anxious or unhappy in any way, don’t you feel like you can’t breathe? If you can’t breathe, you are no good to anyone else. In fact, your actions may, unintentionally, harm those you love.
People are so busy, it seems, from the moment they wake up until they turn out the lights, with responsibilities. Between work, errands, children, tasks surrounding friends and families, taking care of our homes and on and on. And many of these things are not rewarding or even enjoyable.
So what about us? What about taking care of OUR needs?
Self-care is not a luxury; it is a necessity. It is imperative that we all find time each and every day to do something for ourselves to bring calm into our lives and make us feel good.
It doesn’t have to be anything grand, just something you love and gives you a lift.
I love to take a walk with great music playing on my iPod. The neighbors think I am a little nutty as I “dance” myself down the street, but it brings me great joy. How about sitting outside with your lunch on a nice day, or reading a book. Playing video games for half an hour or watching your favorite show. Taking a bubble bath or a nap, spending time on a wonderful hobby: puzzles, baking and the list goes on.
We all have things we enjoy that are just for us. Things that are ours alone and put life back into our step.
So many people say they don’t have time. I have a feeling you make time to feed your children and get your work done.
Taking care of YOU should be on the top of that priority list.
And just a little add-on for you couples. What I like to call mutual-care is equally as important. Don’t forget about each other in the whirl of everyday life. Little touches during the day, cuddles, holding hands and a date night once a week, are so key in keeping that light flickering.
Self-Care. Act as if your life depends on it – because it does!
© 2016 Alice Badler